Stop pretending you are what you are not when making a first impression and save yourself a lot of time.
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You only get one chance to make a first impression, so why fake it?
I don't filter anything of myself during a first 'encounter'. Sometimes I come across as too intense... But then again this is my natural approach to life. This may put off some people, I must admit... So if you want to be making universally acceptable first impressions, perhaps I'm not the one you want to listen to.
What I'm suggesting is that meaningful long-term relationships in the fields of romance, friendship and business are ultimately based on being true to who you are. It is important to consistently show up as who we are during the relationship and especially when making the first impression.
Even if it doesn't feel so, ultimately, it is far safer and more reasonable to try and be yourself, instead of trying to create a certain impression. In this way, you would save each other a lot of time and would know that the relationship starts with a solid foundation.
Be careful not to overdo it
I'm not suggesting that you bombard people with your weirdest aspects from the get-go either... Instead, just do not withhold anything you consider to be genuinely part of who you are or a feature of your personality that defines you.
This will act as a natural filter for the people that you meet.
Among all people you meet, the proportion with whom you have a second meeting may drop somewhat.
Those that you do end up meeting again, are going to be people with whom you resonate more deeply.
The real world
Once I read in a book that some people can be portraying a certain 'fake impression' of who they are for up to three months. Think of the first 90 days of a romantic relationship or in a new job.
Be genuine from the start instead of managing impressions. Show up as who you truly are instead of who you think the other person would like you to be. You may have to pay a small price for this... But ultimately we have only lived a meaningful life if we have been true to who we are.
Thanks for watching/reading. For a deeper discussion or to work together, please feel free to drop me a line on: firstname.lastname@example.org
Martin Stefanov Petkov
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